What To Buy With $150 at Target

I am not well versed on the school calendar. There are days off that come off as a surprise, until maybe the week before, despite the school sending me the calendar the year prior. Hopefully, enriching activities occur on these days, but a lot of my poor planning must encompass the mundane. We are currently having one of those days, and have zero bread in the house, but an entire stick of Trader Joe’s butter with brown sugar and maple. Clearly, we have an issue.

My youngest was born with the shopping gene. I have celebrated this over the years, but lately we have butt heads over the duration of time spent in the toy aisles. I feel that our relationship is stronger when clear boundaries are set ahead of our shopping trips. This was our conversation today:

Me: I need to get bread at Target.

Tiny: I want to come with you.

Me: I am not going to the toy aisles.

Tiny: I am out of Nerf bullets.

Me: Ok, but you need to bring your own money for them. We can get bread and Nerf bullets, but that is it.

Tiny: The Christmas decorations are out.

Me: Ok, bread, Nerf bullets and the Christmas aisle. If you argue when we get there, I can’t take you anymore.

I brushed my teeth, thought hair brushing was unnecessary based on my knowledge of how uncrowded it usually is at 9 am, and got dressed. I wore an exercise bra to remind myself of my daily goals, noticed a small stain on my tee and set a mental note to check the white tee options to replace, and Tiny and I set off.

Oh my, Target has been hit with their daily/weekly/seasonal delivery and it was beautiful to my eyes. The white tee aisle had been the inspiration for my cart direction, but it no longer mattered when the holiday selection hit my eyeballs. I had used my most sanctimonious, motherly righteousness tone of voice with my child before we left, and I was instantly reminded of what it felt like to hit the toy aisle. After 30 minutes and a chunk of time spent on the dressing room bench, my child asked me if I remembered we needed bread. I had, but I needed to look at more aisles.

Target is running 30% off through Saturday on apparel, not including athletic wear. I firmly believe in a wardrobe of good mix and match basic pieces, so how could I not add a chartreuse, satin, tulip dress into the daily mix at 30% off? I couldn’t and a little eye rolling from my husband challenged me to make multiple use options out of it. I told my husband I could wear this to a party, church/brunch/art galleries-that-I-don’t attend-but-might-someday, and work. For reference, I live in LA, and we don’t wear suits. I can pull from my every day and make this happen. Also, there are fantastic pieces aside from my chartreuse lovely. Here is how to spend $150 and get a good wardrobe bang for your buck. Choose one dress, one top, the leggings, one sweatshirt and the shoes and your grand subtotal should be around $130. These are options to add some sparkle and movement to your wardrobe.

Here she is. She is beautiful and so high style for a mere $26.60. She has a touch of sexy with the corset style bodice, but so demure and playful with the tulip midi skirt. For reference, Target calls this color yellow, but I see chartreuse. Tomato, tomahto.

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-sweetheart-bubble-satin-midi-dress-future-collective/-/A-92323180?preselect=92248540#lnk=sametab

I love a thin black turtleneck as a building block, and used it here. It accents the corset bodice for femininity without the sexy, and black tights continue to support the dress as the exhibition piece.

I would also wear this to work with a crisp poplin button down shirt, navy or burgundy tights (with the opposite color heel) and top it with a cropped denim jacket. Embrace the opposites! Wear it. How often can you rock chartreuse? Is it scary? We are basically in the Christmas season; channel the merry.

The shape doesn’t work for you, but you can’t live without chartreuse? Here you go. The slip silhouette is in fashion right now and you can wear a regular bra with this one. Look at the lace sleeve!! Thank goodness for my short torso, or I would have had to buy both dresses. Please dress it down with a moto boot. Are you chilly? Put a black, oversized cardigan with the boots. Opposites attract.

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-sleeveless-lace-trim-ankle-dress-future-collective/-/A-91468123?preselect=91344401#lnk=sametab

Sometimes you just don’t want to think about the minutia. If I have to pack for work, packing jewelry ahead of time just frustrates me. What if I change my mind? What if it’s too early to deal and I’m already cranky about being awake and don’t want to wear jewelry? These. Just these. You have button down options for work into holiday party wear, and I am here for it. My favorite part is the button option; choose traditional or asymmetrical. The fabrication is crisp, and the bling is on the front only, so don’t worry about scraping your car seat or spending the day irritated with small beads rubbing uncomfortably every time you lean into your chair. No jewelry necessary with these tops.

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-long-sleeve-collared-embellished-asymmetrical-button-down-shirt-future-collective/-/A-91467571?preselect=91344859#lnk=sametab

Recently, I finished a good and fulfilling work trip. The subtitle to this means that I had errands to run once home. While I like to dress for the day, I have found that if I wear workout clothing, I am 4000% more likely to exercise. (It’s scientific.) I dressed in my Lululemon Align leggings (pretty much the only ones I’ve worn for the last 3 years) and hit every place in town. I came home and Tiny 1 said he could see my butt. What??? This isn’t the first time either. I SQUATTED IN COSTCO IN THESE!!! Ugh.

Enter the every day soft leggings at Target. They feel the same, launder the same and are $25. Lululemon has officially lost my business.

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-everyday-soft-ultra-high-rise-leggings-all-in-motion/-/A-88170120?preselect=87932070#lnk=sametab

I think a cropped and kind of oversized sweatshirt is flattering with workout leggings, and sets are a thing right now. I’m not so concerned about the set factor, but I like to wear my giant headphones in and out of the gym, and the quarter zip allows me to do this without getting stuck in the sweatshirt while taking them on and off. Both of these are a dupe for major labels, but only $25-30.

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-sandwash-ribbed-1-2-zip-pullover-all-in-motion/-/A-91829519?preselect=91709297#lnk=sametab

https://www.target.com/p/women-s-fleece-1-2-zip-pullover-all-in-motion/-/A-91029297?preselect=90751936#lnk=sametab

This shoe is on sale for $21! I love everything about it. Here is what you wear with the tulip dress from above. Perfect, perfect, perfect! The shape is gorgeous, the heel is practical and the nude with sparkle is screaming to also be worn with a barrel jean and one of the above button down shirts. Just get it–in a size smaller than you usually wear.

https://www.target.com/p/women-39-s-gigi-embellished-slingback-kitten-heels-a-new-day-8482/-/A-91917080?preselect=91814442#lnk=sametab

We made it home from Target with the bread, Nerf bullets, Christmas wrapping paper, my new dress and several other grocery items. I was excited to steam and try my dress on, and my tiny one was excited to sneak up on his brother. (The toy and bullets were confiscated within the hour.) We rode bikes and I flinched playing catch with a football with my not so tiny 1st born. My neighbor told me to stop throwing it like a baseball, which I can’t. We ended the day watching “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” and I realized that the mundane was a great day. When they went off to bed, I had to grab my little computer to share all the wonderful things I found in my Target toy aisle.

My Grown Up Halloween Costume

Halloween is arguably the most exciting holiday as a child. Santa Claus coming down the chimney with tidings of great joy is the tip top of excitement, but there is worry associated with Santa. Have I been good enough? Did he really see me shove a handful of m&m’s into my pocket? HOW MUCH does the man see (???) can keep a child awake at night with worry, but Halloween is the chance to strike out on your own and choose your destiny of early success. It all comes down to the right costume, and your parent’s willingness to indulge your vision.

I think I was in 5th grade the year I decided that I wanted to really embrace my inner creativity with a costume no one had ever thought of before—ever. I was also a tween, so I had to have something that was a pair, so my best friend in the entire world, Kristen, and I could publicly show our bond. I think we vaguely discussed the idea, but I spent hours thinking about dynamic duo costumes. Brilliance hit with my idea of toothpaste and toothbrush. I would be the toothpaste and Kristen would be the toothbrush. True memory fails me, but at some point Kristen came to her senses and bailed on the idea, while I forged ahead. My mother went to the local movie theater and got a large popcorn tub, which is still on genius level in my estimation. She took a sheet and sewed a toothpaste costume, and I was certain this was the year the town talked about my show stopping costume.

My brothers and I went trick or treating by ourselves. I was the oldest. My middle brother went as Superman. He wore underpants over his costume and rain boots to seal the look, and my youngest brother went as a fluffy bunny, which was a leftover costume from preschool graduation. I remember feeling sorry for him for not wearing a costume with deep emotional connection. Reality hit early. My youngest brother was invited into house after house to show how adorable he was to the other people residing, but not handing out candy. What?? He received extra candy while Superman and I were left waiting on the front steps. As an adult, it all makes sense…

Fall is still my favorite season as a grown up. My oldest son has a display village of “spooky” houses and my youngest is building a haunted house with my husband in our front yard. I love seeing decorations as I drive through town, and the actual night of Halloween still makes my heart pump with excitement seeing the streets packed with avid trick-or-treaters and their hopeful little souls. I see fall as a season of costumes, not just one night. Fall is when texture AND layers AND leather AND boots all go together harmoniously. Fall has the fashion magic. Fall is when I open my closet and am certain that wonderful pieces are in there, and maybe even a magic door like in the Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe might appear if I dig deeply enough. (Too much?) Fall is the season that I choose to wear a costume every day, and it brings joy to my dormant trick-or-treater soul.

Building my fall costume revolves around a few key pieces. I know that if I have these on the ready, I can costume quickly. My personal preference is texture and shape over print, with the exception of animal print. Is it really Halloween without animal print? Never. Also, fantastic shoes. You can wear the most basic of basics and it will still be fabulous if the shoes express who you are. These are building blocks for my fall costuming. It makes it so much easier when the pieces can mix and match for different occasions of the day.

Let’s start with pant options. I try and think about what I would choose to put in a suitcase for a short trip to decide what is important.

Free People makes an incredible barrel jean, “lucky you mid rise barrel.” I bought the black a year ago and committed fully with the light denim 6 months ago. They are fun and wacky enough to fit the costuming bill. I spent years hiding in dark denim in hope of masking my thighs, but time has taught me to just find a loose jean with a good cut. You can be absolutely boring with everything else you own, but add these jeans and you will look perfect with the cut of the jeans as the stand out. I ordered 1 size smaller than normal.

https://www.freepeople.com/shop/we-the-free-good-luck-mid-rise-barrel-jeans?

The next pair are for the classic girls. These are by Karen Kane, the Brooklyn cropped jeans. They are by far the most comfortable jeans I own, they go with everything and I am regularly asked where I got them. I’m 5’3 and these are perfectly ankle length on me. I easily dress them up or down. Karen Kane jeans are the only jeans I will wear for travel. They also come in a beautiful off white. They will mold to your personal shape with wear.

https://www.karenkane.com/products/brooklyn-cropped-jeans-l82141-black

Next, Maeve by Anthropologie. I have not worn khaki since the 90’s, but I love this one. Again, the barrel shape is the star, but this is an intro to barrel, or a touch of the trend. It’s a good way to test the water without a full commitment.

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/maeve-curved-cropped-chino-pants?

With your pants being the main story, what do you put on top? This. With everything, for everything. The cut is perfect. Tuck all the way in with the barrel jeans and a studded belt (see below), or front tuck with your black denim to add some slouch to your preppy. Dealer’s choice with the khaki. Roll the sleeves either way. Ralph Lauren makes the perfect button down. If you balk at the price, remember that you can wear it in 20 years too.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/7940058?color=400&size=medium

How to finish? I saved the best for last. Buy it now. Have it always. I waited for 6 months for this, and I clapped my hands with glee when I picked mine up. Wear it everywhere. Put it over your pajamas and saunter to get your paper. Please wear it to shop for groceries. Picking up your child from indoor, sweaty gym practice? Wear it with heels. Just wear it. It’s costume season, ok?

Also, it’s on a secret sale for a day or 2 more.

https://www.karenkane.com/products/faux-fur-vest-3l09901-stone

(remember the animal print reference? This is it. It takes up less room than your sneakers.)

https://www.karenkane.com/products/side-shirred-midi-mesh-dress-3l12600-tan-w-black

Every costume needs its finishing touches.

Why wear black if red is an option? I will never not wear a western bootie.

https://www.lucchese.com/cdn/shop/files/updated_I6529_Right-2_2048x.jpg?v=1722541074

Fine. You’re right. Sometimes black is essential, and they’re on sale.

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/vince-kimmy-bootie-women/7465065

Ladylike belts are boring. Wear this with pearls. Keep them guessing. It’s a costume. Here’s one that caught my attention. Also, All Saints. Anytime you’re bored with what you have, All Saints will fix that.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/7982430?color=001&size=medium

The year of the toothpaste costume was everything childhood should be. The daydreams of what could happen remain with me today. I learned about the possibility of prosperity based on a creative risk, even though I only thought of the reward as candy. It was Halloween magic. It was a costume and for one night, it could be life changing. And really, isn’t that also what fashion is? Isn’t it a chance to try something different and feel fancy free? It’s not serious, but it is a chance to express a sense of self. It can boost your mood or armor you with a bit of physical courage for something that feels daunting. Let a faux fur vest be your costume cape to face the new fall season.

P.S. try “welcome20” at karenkane.com for a discount on your first order.

Personal Comfort Counts

I moved to Los Angeles to attend the Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising. I was determined to make the most of my education and my first order of business was to get an internship for fashion week. I chose my favorite brands and went to the showrooms representing the brands to inquire about employment. I was very fortunate to land an internship with my favorite denim brand. As an added bonus, a hot new pant designer was also showing there for fashion week. My job was to bring coffee, water, snacks, etc to the buyers while modeling the jeans. I worked with another intern who was a very tiny, hip skater girl from Long Beach. The day that the Nordstrom buyers were coming through was the day it all went to sh*t for me. The new pant designer felt too much attention was being given to the denim line and instructed me to put on his pants. He threw his trendiest pair in a sample size at me. I was a FULL size bigger. I really did not have a choice. I squeezed myself into pinstripe, flesh colored cargo pants with back pockets that are best described as pig nose pockets. It was a travesty. I had to walk around pretending to be peppy and hip while saying things like, “Aren’t these just amazing?” “Yes, I am so comfortable. I HAVE to have these.” All the while, skater girl looks unbelievably cute in my favorite jeans. I was certain my career was over. Nordstrom and every other buyer coming through would remember me as the girl who clearly has ZERO fashion sense. Why would anyone hire me? I might as well quit school before it starts and move home.

I did not quit school and I learned something from the experience. I swore I would never make anyone feel as ugly as I felt that day, and to my knowledge I have not. I have legitimately fit hundreds of regular women for fashion shows and I altered whatever made them feel ugly so that they would shine in front of other people. It was possibly the best lesson I learned while in school. This lesson applies to my personal life too. My tiny one hates clothes. Hates ‘em. I have drawers of darling, expensive outfits and all he’s interested in is how soft are his underpants. Oh, and shoes. He really likes shoes. We have a deal that I let him run naked whenever he wants at home and he does not fight me getting dressed when we leave home. It works for us. He has the rest of his life to wear clothes. We live in Southern California. You really do not need clothes. His current shoe obsession is with glow in the dark Native shoes. Being a stellar parent, I forgot to pack shoes for him and my mom bought him his beloved shoes in lime green. (no boring colors for this beautiful boy) We discovered by accident that they also glow! Native shoes come in a million colors, are very water friendly and slip on and off. No laces or Velcro to slow a wild child down. My favorite style is the Jefferson. At $32-42, they aren’t the cheapest shoes, but they are rugged and stylish. They are hands down the perfect summer shoe for boys or girls. My naked boy now chases fireflies at night with his glowing shoes. I should probably just get him a loincloth to go with it—if he was comfortable with it.

 

My preferred brick and mortar or online Native resources: Nordstrom, Nordstrom.com, Amazon.com, Zappos.com

 

Facial Hair and Lasting Impressions

Kabuki Bronzing Brush $17

A fact of life is that there are some things that just follow you that you cannot get rid of. I will be discussing this in a superficial light, not in a serious, non-joking way of something like herpes simplex II. If you were to ask someone who knew me in high school what instantly came to mind when they thought of me, there would be 3 possibilities, I would guess. I rank these how I hope they would fall. #1: She sang well. #2: She had huge boobs. #3: She was a goody two shoes. (damnit) It is what it is. There was a very nice girl I knew growing up who very unfortunately had to go to the bathroom in a solid way at a party, and she will be forever known as the girl who pooped at a party. These are not things that people label to be mean (at least as adults), but it is a brain searing image of who you are and it just does not go away, unless you have breast reduction surgery. That opens up a new avenue of labeling. I am rambling about this because one of those things that people remember is facial hair. I am wary of people thinking of me as Katie hairy face, or that girl with the creepy hair sticking out of her cheek. Make up brushes can make you that girl if you are not careful. Most make up brushes come in colors that are not natural to downy, blonde, normal facial hair so it really stands out. I know that if I notice someone with a random facial hair, the next time I see them I involuntarily check to see if it is still there. Think about it. I bet you do too.

I have used the Body Shop Kabuki Bronzer brush for years because it does not shed, ever. I bought it on impulse as a treat to myself while stuck in the Denver airport, and it is my most favorite make up tool. I have used it for finishing powder, blush, bronzer, or as a general blender between all of the above. The hairs are very soft, it fits nicely in my hand, and it is not outrageously priced at $23 (currently on sale online for $17). I have had my brush for years. I know you are supposed to replace them, but it still seems to do the job for me and it still has not marked me with unwanted facial hairs.

The Perfect Skinny Jean and Words You Should Never Say

There are a couple of words/phrases that should simply never be uttered aloud. Keep this in mind as a preface.

I have worked in fashion/retail in some capacity for almost 15 years. I have experience with personal shopping, selling, event planning, hiring, training, management, and visual merchandising. I have taught students about the importance of creating a proper retail environment. I love it. I love working with a woman and watching her transformation from self doubt to self confidence. My greatest professional moment was working with cancer survivors for a fashion show and watching them strut the runway feeling sexy and womanly. This is good.

One time in my career, I was working with a very poised and proper lady and I needed to go grab some different pieces for her. I asked a colleague to check in on her for me. As I was returning to my customer, I overheard my colleague say, “Yes, those pants look great. They don’t give you camel toe or anything!” Camel.Toe. This is the most foul phrase. Why she chose not having camel toe as a selling point is beyond me. I gagged. I panicked. Would this customer put me in the same category as this other person I foolishly sent to her? Would she think I coached her on the proper usage of the phrase camel toe? Please make it stop. I later told this story over family dinner and it went in an entirely new direction when my dad did not know what that phrase meant, and my brother googled images of the phrase for him. Note, you can never unsee certain things….

I reference this story because I had to put my word loathing aside when I found the perfect pair of skinny jeans. They are by “Rich and Skinny”. I find “rich” an offensive and tacky word. The only time you should utter it is in regards to food or the saturation of a color. I have actually avoided this brand due to their name. Now that my ivf prep and baby weight is gone, I found myself in a delightful situation of needing smaller pants. My finances are not quite as delightful, so I headed to Nordstrom Rack. I found the Rich and Skinny Schoolboy Cuff jean marked to $59.97 from an original retail of $154. They are perfect because of the stretchy fabrication, but not so stretchy that they cling unnecessarily, mid rise, the dark wash, and the slightly loose calf. If you are a curvy girl, you do not want a skinny jean that says “legging” or “ultra skinny” unless you plan to wear them tucked into a boot. When a skinny jean is a little straighter, it is much more flattering, especially when paired with a dark wash. When I put these jeans on the first time, my husband asked me when I got so skinny. THAT is a phrase I can never hear too much!

rich and skinny 2 rich and skinny

Dancing “Cheek” to “Cheek” at Trina Turk

I found myself packed into a sweaty tent with roughly 100 other women, all scouring the racks for a designer bargain.  My pulse was racing, my eyes were narrow and evil looking, and I guarded my 4 inches of personal space fiercely.  Why would I spend a free Saturday morning in a humid tent in 90 degree weather?  For a Trina Turk sample sale, to be exact.  I had heard of this mystical happening, but had never experienced it.  I was driving home and spotted several well dressed women teetering down a shady, commercial street and thought “This must be it!!”  It was.  I had found it!  It happens 1-2 times per year and I finally stumbled upon it!!

I loaded my arms with unsized merchandise and entered the communal dressing room to find potential treasure.  What I really found was that I was lined butt cheek to butt cheek with other desperate women.  It’s slightly unnerving to ask a woman who has her cell phone holstered to her underpants if she would mind moving over so you can peek in the mirror she is hogging.  If you have not participated in a sale of this ilk, here are my tips:

  • For goodness sakes, wear some decent underpants.  Because I am unbelievably nosy, I stared at everyone’s underpants and was very underwhelmed.  There was nary a sexy pair to be found.  Many were in shades I could not confidently attach to a specific color.  If I could have taken a picture without looking like a total creep, I would have so I could have shown my husband.  It would have totally blown his idea that women just “hang out” in sexy underpants.  (To any men reading, no one was close to starting a pillow fight in the tent either.)
  • If you are brave, a thong works best, but know that you will find yourself with your hiney to the wall as much as possible.  A thong eliminates any visible lines and will give you the most accurate assessment of the garment, which you will need due to speeding through the trying on process.  If you do not wear a thong, definitely wear seamless underpants.
  • Be kind to yourself.  The woman next to me was tiny and was bemoaning her tummy.  While it wasn’t a 6 pack, she was darling and I would never have noticed if she had not pointed it out.
  • If there are sizes on the clothing, know that they will not be accurate.  There are salesman samples and then there are fit samples.  Salesman samples are not accurately fit.  The size is not 100% true to the designer’s vision.  The garment is initially created for sales people to show to potential buyers.  Fit samples are going to be much more representative of the designer’s vision, but you will never know which is which.
  • Sample sizes usually run between a size 0 to a size 8.  A lot of sales will also have end of season garments that will be in all sizes, so even if you aren’t a sample size, you should always look.

I left with 2 beautiful blouses that I paid $30 each.  Her blouses at full retail are in the $200 range.  Score.  Stay tuned for why every woman needs blouses in her closet!

How To Make Bathing More Exciting

You should know that I had been catching up on Dexter just prior to this conversation, and the drama had affected my mood ….

Patrick: How much exactly does soap that comes in its own plastic box cost?
Katie: It was an impulse purchase that I blame on Amazon Prime. Let’s never speak of it again!

The soap had cost $20, which is ridiculous for 1 bar of average sized soap, but it is delicious and I love having it. I think about it multiple times per day and inhale its aroma every time I enter my bathroom. I have decided I will only use it on special occasions to make it last longer, as I cannot continue to purchase soap this expensive when I stay home with the tiny one. That special occasion might be I-slept-not-at-all-Wednesday, but the occasions are my own to decide. Patrick is not allowed to use it either. I rarely ask that of products, but I want this puppy to last!
What is this fantabulous product you ask? Hermes. Hermes. Hermes. Hermes Eau d’Orange Verte, to be exact. It comes in a green box and smells like an adult orange. Many fragrances claim to be unisex, which I generally believe to be a cop out for a wussy male fragrance, but this is subtle enough to smell amazing on my husband (before the ban was in place) and is a very sophisticated female scent, with a side of playful citrus.
I found this scent while scavaging in my parents’ house for hair conditioner. They had evidently stayed at some swanky hotel that used Hermes products. (I grilled my mother hard and she cannot remember which hotel). I swiped the shower gel and looked forward to lathering up each day. It took the edge off being a paranoid human in a completely see through glass shower. (There is no escape if someone walks in) When I went to order my own, Amazon only had the little travel sized bottles, so I went for the soap. They are equally wonderful. If you ever buy me presents (Patrick, Mom, unknown future friend), I will take anything in this incredible scent, and lots of it. It is the most perfect summer scent I have smelled.
P.S. The plastic green box is enjoyed daily by the tiny one while taking his nightly bath.

 

hermes soap

The Dress That Launched 1000 Ships

There are two things my husband regularly requests of me:

  1. Please wear something short and tight.
  2. Please consider dyeing my hair so black that it has purple undertones.

In reference to the latter, I keep trying to explain that a pasty white girl cannot pull that one off without looking deathly ill.  He is not buying it.  As far as short and tight goes, it just isn’t comfortable, but I am working on it.  Enter Diane Von Furstenberg.  Every woman should have a go to brand that you know will work in a crunch.  My crunch is that the tiny one and I flew to Omaha much earlier than anticipated and I am completely unprepared for the big, upcoming reunion.  I have ordered several dresses to try, and one of them is a DVF because I know it will fit.  It is my ‘sure thing’, my bff of the closet.  Diane Von Furstenberg is known for her sexy and feminine wrap dresses, and her impeccable taste in prints.  She is the queen of femininity, in my book, and my heart beats a little faster when I see new collections.  She manages to bridge the worlds of super trend and timelessness.  I have little loyalty to most things in my closet, but I horde my pieces by her.

My dress arrived today, and true to form, it is an incredible fit.   I looked in the mirror and grinned.  It manages to be proper and racy in one dress.  Like a mullet, it’s business up front and a party in the back.  It hugs curves like a race car and is just as exciting.  My mind is relieved.  I know I’ve got a dress that makes me feel comfortable, but is as tight as second skin for my husband.  Life is about compromises.  In this situation, this compromise is definitely a win-win.

Here is the dress.  It’s offered in 2 colors.  Nordstrom has the purple on sale.  Saks has both colors at full price, but really fast shipping!

dvf purple dvf

 

Gifts For Father’s Day

My husband and I attended high school together.  He is a year older.  When we tell people we met in high school, they assume we were high school sweethearts.  We were not, except for one, very brief, month.  We reconnected when I was in a travelling children’s show that performed in Chicago, where he was living and working.  We hit the town and I made him dance with me in a bar where no one else was dancing.  He was both fascinated and appalled by what he calls my “show boating”.  The bar, Matildas, is famous for its variety of martinis and I sort of believed I was both invincible and invisible after 2 of them.  When I hit 3, I invited him to watch the show.  I played a variety of characters from a witch, to an elephant, to a chef.  My main costume was: a white turtleneck, white culottes, white tights, white tennis shoes, and a white apron.  (You can see why I waited until the 3rd martini, no?) In one scene, I danced around making a pretend salad.  In another, I pretended to be a mouse and ran around the stage making mouse noises.  Patrick declined, and to this day, he regrets not going and witnessing that spectacle.  This was our beginning.

Patrick and I are both kind of dramatic.  He one time told me that he could either be a good husband or a good father, but not both.  I have no idea how he came up with this statement, or how he rationalized it, but there it was.  He also told me that he would like to be the type of man who pulls off a regular hat.  I only include this to give you an idea of how our conversations go and his mind set.  I am not mocking, by the way.  I love this.  It fits us.  Patrick has now been my husband for 8 years and a father for 9 months.  He, like all other tasks he puts his mind to, has exceeded all expectations in both categories.  We are not without disagreements and arguments, but he is mine and I would not trade him, even for Tim Riggins.  While the list could go on for pages, these moments jump out at me regarding his character as a father and husband.

  • For my birthday this year, a part of my present was him coming home from work early (meaning going in freakishly early) so I had time to run or do something on my own.
  • He has always supported every endeavor of mine, encouraged and brainstormed many, and caught me when I began to fall.
  • He went to almost every single prenatal visit and fully participated in child birthing classes.
  • He never once left our side in the hospital except to go home and take care of our puppies.
  • He takes shifts in the middle of the night, and actually wants to.
  • He reads in character voices to Teddy for his favorite book, “Brown Bear”.
  • He regularly tells me that I have the body to pull off short shorts.  (I did not say he was sane.)
  • He is the most optimistic human I have ever met when it comes to life’s potential.

There is not a gift I could give that would be equal to my appreciation to this man, but here are a few gifts important men in my life have said make it a little sweeter.  Here is a little list if you need some help for the upcoming celebration of fatherhood.

Sporting Category:

Under Armour Golf Shirts: these beat out the competition because of their loose fit and cool breathe technology.

under armour

Nike Golf Shoes: The tennis shoe style breathes better.

nike golf shoe

Mizuno: This workout shoe is ideal for flat and wider feet.  www.mizunousa.com

Jawbone Up: “UP is a wristband and app that tracks how you sleep, move and eat—then helps you use that information to feel your best.” –from jawbone.com.  Great new tool for techies and cross fitters.

jawbone up

Fashion:

Hugo Boss Ties: the quality is superior.  They have a firm enough texture to stay tied nicely throughout the day.  Also, not appropriate for Father’s Day weather, but he makes the most incredible velvet blazer I have ever seen.  Neiman’s has them on sale.

Donald Pliner Dress Shoes: I love my brother David’s sense of style and he will now only wear this dress shoe since discovering it.

donald pliner

Ted Baker Socks: You have to love a bit of cheeky British whimsy for these.

ted baker socks

Cowboy boots: There is not a manlier, or sexier shoe out there.  Plus, for any men who see themselves taller, there is a little lift in them.  No worries, they will not look like Prince.  Zappos.com upgrades your free shipping to overnight.

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Miscellaneous:

Tumi Wallets: Tumi is a luxury brand with a modern look.  Their products last forever and their wallets are very reasonably priced.  After Patrick washed (and ruined) the Gucci wallet I gave him, I bought him this.  It has been washed and still is kicking 8 years later.

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Meoimi Wine: I am not a wine connoisseur by any means, but my brother is.  He recommends this for a nice, well priced red.

Gold Bond Lotion: It just works for man hands.

I Am A Bag Lady

Right out of college, I nannied for a fabulous little boy who had an equally fabulous mama.  She was, and still is, who I think of when I think of stylish women.  One day she told me about a Fendi sample/end of season sale and told me I needed to go.  This is the type of employer I enjoy having.  Priorities are priorities.  Walking into the sale for me was the grown up version of being invited to the North Pole.  I didn’t know where to look or walk to first.  There was an entire room full of Fendis that I could afford.  I have had few dreams that rivaled the excitement of that day.  I bought a $1000 bag for $150.  I0 years later, it is still my go to bag for every formal occasion.  It is the best deal I have ever found.

fendi

I am a bag girl.  I like bags for all occasions and purposes.  I like having a pile of things that I need for the day and thinking about how to best contain them.  Buying a diaper bag took months as I mentally played different scenarios in my mind.  Pockets, zippers, pouches….it is so exciting to mentally fill these.  Having a baby now, I carry big bags, but one of my most favorite bags I own is a tiny bag that holds my necessities, but keeps my arms and hands free to tell stories as I am incapable of talking without my hands.

purple bag

My Marc by Marc Jacobs cross body bag is perfect for carrying just the necessities, but it still has the bells and whistles that make it interesting to me.  It has 2 outer pockets with brass hardware, and an inner slip pocket for a little extra safe keeping.  It comfortably holds a small wallet, cell phone, pen, gum, and lip gloss.  I can wear it cross body or cinch it up to make it more of a clutch for the evening.  I adore it.  Sadly, they have discontinued it, but while the purple color and hardware drew me to it, the size of it was what made it so wonderful.  The tiny cross body bag is a staple bag to have in your bag arsenal.  I consider it a piece of jewelry that completes your outfit.  Basic black is obviously the safe choice, but since they are so little, a pop of color is much more interesting.  Here are current favorites.  All can be found at Bloomingdales.  Enjoy.

yellow marcMarc by Marc Jacobs

botkier

Botkier

tory

Tory Burch

camuto

Vince Camuto

minkoff blue

Rebecca Minkoff

minkoff

Rebecca Minkoff